Listener Letters: What Grief Asks of Us

This episode of Two Mothers, One Aché is dedicated to you—the listeners who’ve been carrying questions quietly. Dionne C. Monsanto and Yvette Davila begin with Brahmari (the humming bee breath), a grounding tool for an overactive mind, then open a heartfelt Q&A built from your messages (shared with privacy and safe messaging in mind).

They explore what to do when friends stop checking in, how to ask for support without feeling “needy,” and why needs don’t require apology. They talk openly about guilt—especially the fear that joy is betrayal after a loss—and offer a powerful reframe: living can be an act of love and honor. They also address the late-night replay loop (“shoulda/coulda/woulda”) with practical tools like “cancel, cancel”, plus reminders about forgiveness, grace, and not judging your past self with today’s knowledge.

We close with comfort-song picks, gentle anchors, and an Aché moment inviting you to speak your loved one’s name out loud.

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